![]() ![]() I’m not suggesting we remain ignorant and uninformed, but rather be mindful of what our minds, hearts and souls are consuming considering the media we ingest.Īnd if you find yourself ruminating and simply can’t break free, then maybe take Coach Lasso’s advice … and be a goldfish.“There is nothing worse than being referred to as an ex-something,” Natasha Kraal says matter-of-factly. Even the news may be too much at times for some of us. Gruesome shows and movies may be conditioning you to think the worst thoughts. Think of where you are most worried, and put in place some solid plans and resources for that potential. They are everyday people who know that having more than two weeks of dry goods and six months of financial resources on hand is being prepared, not wishing for the end. Most “preppers” are not conspiracy theory “crazies” as you might think. Take a clue from the scouting motto: Be prepared.You’ll likely find that your conversation will naturally move to reminiscing, which replaces rumination in our mind’s activity. Reconnect with a loved one, an old school chum or a neighbor from your past. Call someone you haven’t spoken to in a while.Here are a few experiments to run toward that goal: What if you could replace worry and rumination with better planning and meaningful reflection? We all have the ability to shift our energy more mindfully, though it’s not always easy. And even the bad memories are a part of who we are. Of course, we also have memories that would be nice to forget, to ban to the netherworld of our psyche however, it is not the memories’ fault as much as what we choose to do with them. We have memories that are cherished, beautiful experiences we want to keep forever. While I love Ted Lasso, I think that it’s fortunate that we’re not goldfish. What if we could remain present instead? What if we had the ability to plan but not worry and reflect without ruminating? ![]() I am a worrier, which means my focus is more future facing and which is also a coping avoidance mechanism by creating the potential failure as an imagined state of being so I can then worry about it rather than cope with the possible failure (if) when it may happen. Personally, I spend little to no time ruminating about the past. Either they don’t think of solutions or don’t pursue them quickly or effectively.” Generally, the more people ruminate, the less effective they are at problem solving. “Occasionally you might have a useful insight while ruminating, but mostly it’s avoidance coping. When we replay the past scenario, we often tell ourselves that we are working to understand what didn’t go well so we can do better next time – even though that’s not often the case. What I most appreciate about Boyes’ article is her distinction between rumination and problem solving. In other words, we think we didn’t do as well as we think we potentially could have done, so we replay the scenario over and over. A ruminative reaction to an event often triggers memories of similar situations from the past and an unproductive focus on the gap between the real and ideal self.” “While we worry about what might occur in the future, we ruminate about events that have already happened. In the Harvard Business Review article “How to Stop Obsessing Over Your Mistakes,” psychologist Alice Boyes explains why we ruminate, how it impacts our daily lives, and how we can control it. And while our memory is fallible (trust me as I pass the half-century mark in age, my memory is proving to be less and less reliable every day!), it doesn’t stop us from ruminating on our perceptions of past events … creating a direct effect on the current and future state of things. Humans, as we know, have extraordinarily long memories. A goldfish has the shortest memory of any living creature. He asks Sam if he knows that creature has the shortest memory somewhat bewildered, Sam shakes his head. One footballer in an earlier season, Sam, is struggling with some personal and professional issues, and Coach Lasso steps in. Spoiler Alert! Ted changes things and makes the team better! The owner of the team is bitter due to her recent divorce and her strategy is to ruin the one thing her ex-husband loved … the team. My family is eagerly anticipating the 3 rd season of “Ted Lasso,” the Apple TV+ original series about an American football coach hired by an English football (soccer) team.
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